Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Mommy's Talk

Mom and I had a talk today, a good talk. She admitted that she should have asked where we stood on the issue of bringing Eden to the movie instead of just launching into her opinion about it based on her swirling thoughts over the past week or two since we saw them. She also said that, in the future, she won't say important things like that in email, but in person. We both recognized that it would have saved a lot of trouble if she had just started saying the same things she did in the email over the phone because I could have just stopped her and told her things had changed.
We talked without breaking into tears, which is an accomplishment. We talked without defensiveness and without suspicions of hidden meanings. We talked with intent to listen and learn about each other. We didn't understand each other perfectly or totally agree on everything, but we both expressed the desire to continue the dialogue that will be our road to growing our relationship.

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